I’ve been easy ‘prey’ as an autistic woman and girl

Video where I read aloud my latest NdC Blog 'I've been easy prey as an autistic girl and woman' and share more about the (free) NdC Grooming and Coercive Control Summit 27 Nov - 01 Dec.


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“There is an interconnected and feminist piece to acknowledge of course. One which exacerbates this phenomenon. Girls are conditioned to be ‘nice,’ people please and be resourced from by others (aka ‘used’). We are more susceptible to being groomed and coerced as societal decency literally grooms us into not following our biological impulses and instincts – not listening to our embodied knowing, intuition, and ‘neuroception’ (3) because good girls don’t object, shout, fight or get mad. They don’t say no. And frustratingly evidence suggests that there is a gender difference in the response men and women exhibit when under stress and threat, that being ‘fight-or-flight’ in men and ‘tend-and-befriend’ in women (4). 


It is not the responsibility of girls to protect themselves from predators – it is the responsibility of society protect them. And this requires us all to be the change we want to see. Whilst, in our homes, schools and services we also need to first and foremost prioritise prevention, not simply focus on cure.


As part of the NdC Grooming and Coercive Control Summit in November I will be sharing about the importance of relating and coregulation as part of the safeguarding and prevention strategies to deploy in relation to this topic. Alongside this I will be speaking to the importance of education for all of us, on these topics and the pivotal part we, as adults, need to take, as mentors, coaches, and also as role models and advocates of belonging, healthy relating and non-abusive dynamics, because ‘we can’t be it, if we can’t see it’ – and this is especially true for marginalised groups in society, of which autistic girls are on.”

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