Making Love with the Divine

"Making Love with the Divine invites us to explore our experiences of the erotic current that animates our bodies and our lives. A current whose natural flow and vitality is often stifled, distorted and shamed within patriarchal culture.

This book seeks to open up the conversation by asking us how we experience our own sexuality and eroticism, and how this flow of aliveness can be a portal to feeling the divinity inside of us, and beyond us.

Based on her research and clear devotion to this path, Kay Louise Aldred has created a supportive year-long workbook that provides a practical framework for anyone who feels a call towards liberating their body and deepening relationship with their sacred erotic aliveness."

-Carly Mountain, Sex and Relationship Therapist and author of Descent & Rising.



I published this book in January 2023 with @girlgodbooks (available via their website or all major online retailers). In writing it, I came face-to-face with just how deeply disconnected — and even phobic — we are, as a society, from our bodies. Across all settings.



Now, another of my works is coming of age. I can feel it. It's ready to support the vision and building of a new era — new culture, new systems, new norms.

I'm deeply grateful to @carly_mountain for her beautiful endorsement and the powerful work she herself brings into the world.



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​Consciousness

I understand from both research and lived experience that #consciousness can exist beyond the #body and #mind.

Yet my bodymind lived experience keeps showing me that I learn the most about consciousness, and our collective humane, humanitarian potential, in and through the body itself.

Staying integrated, and connected — this is how I truly learn what it means to be alive.

While consciousness may extend beyond form, it's through my body that I’ve come to understand it most deeply. I'm not in or with consciousness - I am embodied consciousness (embodied Source or #Spirit) - experiencing itself. And therefore, perhaps evolving too.



📸 St Michael's Tower on top of The Tor in Glastonbury, taken earlier this month

Somatic Shamanism

“Where our minds are vexed by modernity, with even our wilder hopes limited by reason and logic, our creaturely bodies house and animate our strangest imaginations. We live all possibilities out loud through our bodies. We speak through our skin. We wield the intelligence of the flesh, our “fleshy knowings” as Kay Louise Aldred describes them. Move through this workbook like a prayer; it’s a beautiful and timely achievement.”

-Danielle Dulsky, Founder of The Hag School



I feel like the content of this workbook, which I authored and published (via @girlgodbooks, which is available from their website or online stores) in June 2023, is finally coming of age.

Grateful for this beautiful endorsement that the book received: 'we speak through our skin ... we wield the intelligence of our flesh"

#IfeelthereforeIam

#educateevolveembody #bodymind #diversity #spirituality #depathologise #rehumanise #thinksystemically



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Neurodiverse Voices Podcast with Andreia Costa

Season 4 Episode 3



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Can you believe that it’s almost November? Still trying to understand what happened this year!



The great news is that it’s almost time for a new episode of the NDV Podcast, with the amazing and very special @kaylouisealdred ! 🤗





From Diagnosis to Self-Compassion: Kay’s Story of Healing and Embodiment



Diagnosed as autistic at 47, @kaylouisealdred shares her powerful journey of late diagnosis, healing, and self-acceptance. 💜



I connected with Kay last Autumn, as I joined the Neurodivergent Wellbeing Approach training that she leads at @ndconnectionuk. I’ve learnt so much from Kay during the training and she has become an inspiration since then.



We had a wonderful and insightful conversation with a focus on the importance of the connection between the mind and body, which we so often miss.

We talked about late diagnoses, menopause and neurodivergence, parenting and a lot more!



Thank you so much for being a guest on the NDV Podcast, Kay! It’s been an immense pleasure to interview, and I can’t wait for Saturday, 1st November to share your story! 🩵

Don’t miss it!



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Why self-awareness matters

My latest NDC blog extracts 👇

Whether you're Neurodivergent yourself or working with those who are, self-awareness is foundational. It means learning to notice our nervous system, values, triggers, and stories. It’s about becoming more aware of how we show up in spaces, and how our internal state affects our presence and interactions.

For professionals, this reflective work allows us to move beyond ‘doing to’ and toward ‘being with’. For Neurodivergent individuals, cultivating self-awareness helps reclaim agency and self-trust in a world that often misunderstands difference.

This training endeavours to create space for both groupings to come together in this exploration.



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Reflective responding over reaction

Neurodivergent people often face environments that ask for immediate answers, constant productivity and quick emotional recovery. The Neurodivergent Wellbeing Approach recognises that reflection is not a luxury, it’s a requirement for sustainable wellbeing.



Reflection means:

Noticing how systems shape our responses

Identifying internalised expectations of compliance or performance

Exploring what wellbeing looks and feels like for us

This kind of self-inquiry isn't about pathology or self-improvement. It’s about remembering our own needs, rhythms and knowing.







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Honouring spiritual and existential needs

Wellbeing isn't just physical or emotional. Many Neurodivergent people have deep spiritual needs, rich inner landscapes and existential questions that deserve space. Whether expressed through connection to nature, creativity, meaning-making, or rituals of rest and solitude, spiritual wellbeing is often sidelined in clinical or educational settings.



The Neurodivergent Wellbeing Approach course recognises spiritual and existential needs as valid, non-pathological aspects of human life. It gives language and permission for people to honour the deeper parts of themselves, without needing to explain or justify their experience.



Read the full blog 👇

https://ndconnection.co.uk/blog/ndwa-go-deeper



The latest NDWA training began on Oct 14th.  

The next round of training will be in spring 2026.

"I am Priestess of the Mysteries of the Dark:

I walk with you into and through your shadow lands offering you a cloak of protection for the journey

I retrieve your blazing heart from the entombment of despair, pain and shame

I am Holy hell raiser

I am the one who watches and waits whilst you put on the armour of procrastination, bypassing, denial, gossip, projection, gossip, competition, neglect, and criticism until you realise it's too heavy to wear

I am protector of your maiden, mentor of your mother, fuel of your lover and trainer of your huntress

I am hermit and oracle, lone wolf, and guide of the pack

I am receiver and transmitter, reflective and invisible

I have no interest in small talk. I am she who sees. I am she who places the mirror in front of you until you see your truth and power. And own them. Fully. And embody them. Fully.

I am Mistress of the Goddess. The embodied expression of the gift of new beginnings through living death."



👆 This piece—Mysteries of the Dark—one of my attempts at creative writing, authored in 2021, remains one of the truest expressions of my inner world and its depths.



When it made it into the @girlgodbooks Warrior Queen Morrigan Anthology in 2021, the feeling of being able to share it publicly in a printed global publication was simultaneously exhilarating and connecting and terrifying and exposing.



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Being part of a creative community, with so many other women from all over the world, exploring & sharing our inner worlds, outwardly, is incredibly nourishing, empowering & gives perspective & a sense of commonality in struggle & resistance.

May we remember the power of collective storytelling & art in all its forms.



May we find (& if there are none, create) spaces for this.

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As always really honoured to have two featured submissions in the latest @girlgodbooks anthology Sacred Breasts.



Thank you for including me again. This is the 15th Girl God Books anthology I've had published work in, and I'm truly grateful to be part of this creative community.



This inspirational anthology features artwork by @barbaraomearaart and many others.

In a culmination of wisdom, intuition, lived experiences, and the vast knowledge of contributing women writers, we hear their energetic voices through essays, prose, poetry, prayer/song, sacred ritual, and much more.



Packed with exhilarating, insightful, and honest writing from sisters, daughters, mothers, grandmothers, goddess mothers, lovers, friends, healing practitioners, therapists, wise and wild women - as we learn to celebrate our breasts.


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he colonial tool that is theology. Devaluing & abusing bodies. Embedding male entitlement.



"Globally, it is estimated that 30% of the world's population experiences chronic pain.

I’m one of them. This is my body.



This type of pain affects more women than men.

I’m one of them.  Broken with you.



Academically I am a theologian and the reason I decided on this particular title for this article – which is a play on eucharistic and biblical phrase “Take, eat; this is my body which is given for you; do this in remembrance of me” – is because those of us who were raised in the Christian tradition will have heard a variation of these words and no doubt have pondered what they actually mean.



Inevitably, through these words we have been ‘programmed’, to some extent, that our body is to be ‘given away’ or ‘sacrificed’ to intense suffering, for the sake of and to ‘feed another’ and/or ‘God’, and that pain and suffering are an acceptable exchange, in God’s view, for redemption.



This ‘programme’ layers on top of other Christian conditioning we have received around the body being sinful and ‘base’"



An extract from my piece 'This is my Body. Broken with You' which was published in the @girlgodbooks Pain Perspectives: Finding Meaning in the Fire Anthology, and which can also be read in full now on @girlgodbooks Patreon page 👇



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#thinksystemically

October Newsletter. It's out now!

Read, subscribe, share 👇
https://mailchi.mp/091a76512104/october-newsletter?e=f36f469e0c

#educateevolveembody #bodymind #diversity #spirituality #depathologise #rehumanise #thinksystemically

Call for Participants: Join the Neurodivergent Creative Research Community (NCRC), Exploring Regulation through Creative Practice & from a Neurodivergent Perspective


Are you a Neurodivergent adult who enjoys creative practices like art, writing, storytelling, or embodied movement? Are you interested in regulation, dysregulation, and how creativity can support wellbeing?


We’re inviting you to take part in a unique, paid research opportunity that values your lived experience and creative passions.


About the Project
Title: Building Neurodivergent-Affirming Cultures of Regulation: A Neurodivergent Perspective
Led by Dr Amy Skinner (York St John University, Institute for Social Justice) and Kay Louise Aldred (Neurodiverse Connection), this project will explore how regulation is experienced by Neurodivergent people, using creative and collaborative methods.
You'll be part of a co-researcher community, helping to shape a creative, co-produced output and published research.


Who Can Take Part?
We’re looking for Neurodivergent adults who:
Use or are curious about creativity to explore emotions, experiences, well-being and regulation
Are open to sharing ideas about how they experience regulation and dysregulation, and what regulated spaces look and feel like for them, and how they can be facilitated, in a supportive, collaborative environment


Identify as Neurodivergent (no formal diagnosis is needed to apply)


What's Involved?
Attend monthly creative sessions (online or hybrid options)
Sessions run from December 2025 to July 2026, on the second Thursday of each month (up to 2.5 hours each, with breaks)
Engage in creative workshops, short, recorded conversations, and photo sharing of your creative work
Take part in a supportive, imaginative, and respectful space
Participants will be paid £250 for their time and contributions.


How to Apply
We have an online information Teams meeting on Thursday, 9th October 2025, at 6 pm, which you can attend via this link: Join the meeting now, Meeting ID: 379 297 777 957 8, Passcode: sY6nQ7ts. To find out more about the project, or you can email us at [email protected] and ask any questions you have.


Send an email to [email protected] telling us why you're interested by 5 pm on Monday, 20th October 2025. Details of what to include in the email below.


We’ll select participants based on interest and creative fit – we aim for a mix of styles and perspectives


If selected, you'll be invited to an online information meeting on Teams on Thursday, 6th November at 6 pm, before confirming your place.


Your Wellbeing
Your well-being during the research process is important to us.
Share only what feels right for you
You can pause or skip activities at any time
We'll begin with creative work; body-based (somatic) practices will be introduced gently later
Full consent info will be provided before you join


Your Data and Privacy
Your personal data will be stored securely and used only for this project. You’ll be able to review and approve anything with your name or creative work before it's made public or archived.


Interested? Have Questions?
To apply or find out more, email us at [email protected] by 5 pm on Monday, 20th October 2025.


In the email, let us know:
About yourself – eg your location and experience
Why you're interested in being part of the project
Any creative practices you enjoy or want to explore


Let’s build something better spaces for regulation and creativity together by, with, and for the Neurodivergent community.